1: Care and nurture yourself.
For many people, hearing that their partner wants space can be quite a shock. When a person is in shock, he or she might walk around dull and dazed or have a difficult time just getting through the normal routine.

Make a conscious effort to give yourself extra care and nurturing right now. Eat healthy foods and drink plenty of water. Treat yourself to bubble baths, relaxing music, get a massage, or whatever helps you feel just a bit more soothed.

2: Gather a support system around you.
Take a look at your friends and family. Who are the people that help you feel supported and uplifted?

Make a list of not only these people, but also the books, music, activities and groups that are truly supportive of your healing and then deliberately spend more time with these people and doing these things.

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3: Resist the urge to predict the future.
It’s natural that your mind might drift off to the future when all of these unknowns in your relationship are finally resolved. Depending on how you feel at any moment, this “prediction” of your future might be hopeful or it might be depressing and bleak.

It can really help you to stay present. As much as you don’t like what’s going on in your life in this moment, try to be present anyway. The benefits of being present are that you can base your response to whatever happens on what you know to be true instead of on what you are imagining.

4: Set “ground rules” for this time of separation.
Just because your partner is the one who is asking for space, it doesn’t mean that you have no voice or say. While you cannot force your mate to stay with you when he or she wants to separate for awhile, you CAN request that the two of you set down some “ground rules” for this time apart.

Create clear agreements about topics like these: fidelity, appropriate and inappropriate interactions with others, how much (or how little) contact with one another, financial matters (if applicable), child care issues (if applicable), etc.

You might also request a specific period of time for this space or separation. After this time, perhaps the two of you could come together to talk and make some decisions about your relationship.

5: Allow your emotions.
Let yourself feel whatever you are feeling. While it’s important not to become stuck in the sadness, fear or whatever emotions are coming up for you, it’s just as important for you to let the feelings flow.

When you ignore or try to stuff down the way that you feel, it will almost always come up later in more intense ways.

In fact, when you take regular time to allow yourself to cry when you need to or get angry when you feel angry and you do this in ways that don’t hurt you or another person, your emotions can more easily move through you.

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6: Become a better partner.
Take some time during this separation period to work on yourself and become a better partner. Please hear us… We are NOT saying that your partner asked for space because there is something wrong with you or you are solely to blame.

i am  advising you to recognize and take responsibility  for the role that you might have played in some of your relationship challenges. This could be a time to develop new habits. You might have a tendency to get jealous , to withhold intimacy when you are angry or to hold a grudge, for example.

Even if you and your partner do not get back together again after this separation, you can benefit from this.

As you courageously look at some of your habits, you can also assess your relationship as a whole. Acknowledge the patterns that you and your partner have and ask yourself if they are healthy and desirable.

Really give yourself the freedom to decide whether or not staying together is a good idea for both of you.

Keep returning to what you CAN do during this time. A sense of empowerment can help you make requests, create agreements and make decisions that will better serve you.